You’ve got to be there for them from the time they arrive in your life so you understand them, but most of all so you don’t miss the joy of seeing them grow and develop. You can’t just all of a sudden decide one day that you are going to start spending a lot of time with them. I have two sons, one of them is 35 and the other is 32. When we’re together they’ll say, “Hey Dad, do you remember that time when we went to the zoo when we were little.” They’re constantly reminding me of fun things we did when they were younger. I also believe in spending the correct amount of time. When they are young, they need as much time as you can give them, but in their teenage years you do them a disservice if you smother them.