I ask for things and I think I’m pretty clear in the way that I ask. I say please and I say thank you. If I really want it, I just keep asking for it. I can be proactive but hopefully, not overly aggressive! I was more passive in college because I wanted to be liked, and then found that the internal resentments and pretty grievances would build up. I started to learn that that the clearer and the more direct I can be the easier life is. Even if you’re saying things sometimes that people don’t fully want to hear, it’s just so much better. I had to exercise that muscle, these were not natural personality traits.